Wednesday, 20 February 2013

Confession of a MILF Sex Worker

Following the article “The Insider Story of an Online Pimp”, SHS followed up and managed to get another exclusive interview with 2 sex workers from China. Let’s call them Crystal and Fiona. For the sake of the readers, the interview conducted in Mandarin has been translated into English. I will post the long interview I had with Crystal first and Fiona’s interview on a later date.

Interview with Crystal

SHS: Hi, before we start, why not give me a brief introduction of yourself like where are you from and age?
Crystal: Ok. I’m from Chong Qing China and I’m 37 years old. My customers call me Crystal.

SHS: Nice name. Can you tell me how long have you been in this line?
Crystal: I had been doing this for almost 5 years.

SHS: Can you tell me more about yourself and how you started in this line?
Crystal: I divorced my China husband about 6 years ago after I found out that he was having an affair. We had a huge fight after that and he left the house to stay with the woman. I then lost all contact with him until much later. He didn't even call back to ask about our son. I was devastated as I am lowly educated and was a full-time housewife. To make matter worse, I found out that I was infected with STD from him. Being lowly educated, I needed money for my son. I do not want to ask my parents for help as they are old and had little savings.  I tried to work odd-jobs but the salary was too little and I was struggling every day. 

A few months later, one day, I coincidentally met Fiona, an old friend from my village and she appeared to be doing rather well. I had heard that she had recently built a house for her parents after working overseas for just a few years. I told her about my plight and asked her to recommend me a job too. She was reluctant at first but eventually agreed after I brought her to visit my son and she saw the condition of my small apartment.

I was surprised when she told me what she was actually doing (prostituting herself in Singapore). She told me the money was good and she could make more than 25,000 renminbi (approx. SGD5,000) a month. For the sake of my child, I agreed and asked her to help me arrange. In any case, the job is overseas so nobody will know back home.

She told me to prepare a large sum of money so that she can proceed to arrange the visa and the lodging.  Left with little choice, I borrowed some money from my parents. At the same time, my ex-husband contacted me and asked for a divorce. I agreed but on condition that I have custody of my son and that I be given a lump sum of money as compensation. He agreed.

About 6 months later, I left my country for Singapore.

SHS: So how was your experience in Singapore?
Crystal: I was confused at first. Everywhere seems the same to me.  I was brought to an apartment and I was staying with a group of sisters from China. I was introduced to Samuel who was supposed to help me start. We discussed about the type of services that I provide and after some persistence, I had sex with him. He said it would help him in writing an introductory advertisement to the clients. He was the first man I had sex with after my husband. Besides that, I was to pay him upfront and he will help me with getting clients who will call me on my handphone.

SHS: What are the type of service that you provide and how much?
Crystal: At first, I charged $70 an hour for sex. Nowadays, I charged $100 for 1½ hour and it includes room. I do everything but not anal sex. Besides that, the customers must wear condoms at all times.

SHS: Do you find it difficult doing this?
Crystal: Of course. I was uncomfortable being naked with strangers not to mention having sex with them. But I overcome it after about 1 month. Many of them taught me how to satisfy them better. I guess I got better after as my clientele started to improve.

SHS: Did you meet any weird client?
Crystal: Yes. Some of the people I met are perverts. Some asked me to pee on their face and the weirdest was one who licked up his own sperm after he ejaculated. Some blamed me when they fail to get their penis erected long enough for penetration and others tried to force me to do BDSM (bondage) with them.

SHS: Can tell me about the worst customers that you had experienced?
Crystal: Yes. There were a couple of them that will try to have sex without condom. I will refuse but there had been instance where they will remove the condom without me noticing it and have sex with me. By then, it would be too late and I would be too high to stop them. The worst are those that even ejaculate into me. Nowadays, I started to take pills just in case I get pregnant.

SHS: You mean you are okay with sex without condom now?
Crystal: After a few of such encounters, I will agree if they are regular customers. I need to retain my clients and if that pleases them, then so be it. I just want to make quick buck and go back to China.

SHS: Aren’t you afraid of STD?
Crystal: I do but I need to make money fast. Men orgasm faster without condom too, it saves me time as it can be tiring having sex with a few men in a single day. To be honest, I did get infected before but it has been treated. I guess it is part of the job.  As for the men, they were unfaithful so they deserve what they got (STD) from others through me.

SHS: How much have you made from this so far?
Crystal: I had more than enough, my son is living better and I had managed to build a new house for my parents who are taking care of my son. I will probably retire in about 2 more years and start a small business in China. I know some of my girlfriends who had in fact started food business here and making decent amount for the family back home. They even managed to get Permanent Residents status here and brought their kid here to study.

SHS: Last question, is there any memorable customers that you had encountered?
Crystal: There was this man who engaged my service one evening. He seems to have just ended work. He was different from the rest. He was shy and uncomfortable when we were in the room. When getting on with the service, he had problem getting his penis erected for penetration. He was young in his mid 30s and was okay when I gave him fellatio so I know he must be either too excited or was having too many thing on his mind. I did what I was paid to do, I encouraged him by giving him complimenting on his penis, talked dirty to him and tried to distract him from his thoughts so that he can focus on having sex. After he managed to penetrated me, I continued to shower him with compliments such as how great he feels and how he make me feel horny and wet to the point of near climax. He ejaculated very fast, within 5 mins.

We spoke after the session and I asked him if he was okay. He apologized for his poor performance which I had to put in extra effort. We spoke further and he told me that he is married but the sex was near non-existence. He couldn’t get it up as he was feeling guilty for betraying his wife but he needs to satisfy his sexual needs which the wife refused to provide. He added that they had frequent quarrel about his son’s education which led to the dwindling sexual encounters with his wife. It eventually became a habit and now they will only have sex once a month at the most, sometimes up to 3 months.I felt for him then as at least he still feels guilty about his action.

This man became my regular after that for about 6 months before he stopped visiting me. I have not seen him since.   


Friday, 15 February 2013

Confession of a Bisexual Man

I received an email from a person who claimed that he used to be gay. I wonder if there is such a thing since the gays has been saying that their sexual orientation was due to biological factors but I guess we can label him as bisexual since he "goes both ways". The received email would be great to educate readers on what is happening within the gay community and if what this guy claim is true, all parents should be careful when they send their boys to the public pool. The security in such public area should strengthen as some incident may go unreported for fear of embarassment.

Below is the article (unedited except that the photographs had been watermarked). I will not include a screenshot of the email as it is rather long.


I am in my early 30's, happily married with a 3 years old son. I cannot quite describe whether I feel blissful.

Recently there is some spotlight on gays. I met my current wife when I was 26 and after 2 years of courtship, we married (I think she courted me). I am very fortunate to know that she doesn’t mind my past.

I am tired of the minority vocal gay community who go all high and mighty preaching for equal rights for all and screaming discrimination when the community are actively engaged in sexual activities in private like any straight people would do without any fear of caught. The same minority gay people are giving a bad name to the majority quiet gay couples who are eager not to draw additional attention to them.

I am going to share the other side of the tale - how the gays commonly hook-up. Trust me; it is no different from the straight people. It has been done for years peacefully. I am sure the older gays have different experiences to share.

Your readers may probably wonder my sexual preference is, whether I'm gay or bi or straight. I can only say I am only both emotionally and sexually attracted only to my current wife. What does that make me?

Internet Relay Chat (IRC)
In the nineties and early 2000s, internet connection was expensive and there weren’t social media sites and internet activities for the gay community to engage. But there was a popular medium called Internet Relay Chat or IRC which could be accessed with slow dial-ups. Then, there were popular IRC chat channels which many PLUs (People Like Us – a slang used referring to homosexual) frequent such as #sgboy, #gam, #gayteens@sg, #plu, #singapore. But these chat channels can only be accessed if you are on the Galaxynet IRC chat network.

These chat mediums are on the decline by now. But in its hey days, apart from 1-to-1 blind dates, the gay community uses it to organised orgies, 3-somes and looked for sexual partners to satisfy our own fetishes. Those days, most of us would use a IRC nick name to represent ourselves, i.e if i were 16 year old, i would set my IRC nick name as boiboi16. But this doesn't stop lusty men from setting their own nick name as cuteboi13 to attract the really young and curious.

There are 2 modes of communication in IRC, a public window where everyone in the channel could contribute their views or they could privately communicate with other IRC user in the same channel. In today's context, it is almost equivalent to Facebook Private Messanging. I remember clearly a typical private IRC conversation usually goes like this:

<quiet^guy18>: hi intro?
: 15 162 48 chn. u?
<quiet^guy18>: 18 172 59 chn. wat do u seek?
: friend, mayb fun. u have a place?

From experiences, we usually tend to look for their own race. If is an Indian, the conversation usually ends but there are exceptions.

In the channel public channel, you tend to see individuals seeking other users with common intents, such as "bears", "spanking", "unif" (short for uniform), "spandex", "bondage", "chubs", "sec sch", "trade videos", "sissies", "panties", "cross dress", "fat malay uncles with tummy", "hairy", "lean", "uncut". The list is extensive. But there were some innocent sincere requests as well such "seeking LTR", "seeking BF".

Here is how a typical IRC Channel looks like now. But this is nothing compared to its heydays, when there was still a channel operator with the nick name "Q".

Rendezvous Spots
The usual rendezvous spot for the straights are applicable to gays - Handicapped toilets, multiple storey car parks, staircase landings, cars etc. But we have an additional advantage in the form of swimming pools. In the earlier days, open showers in swimming pools were common and it was a hunting ground to seek like-minded individuals. You may have seen men taking extended showers taking an effort to show you his intimate parts or walking around swimming pool toilets with erections. Being an avid swimmer in my secondary school days has exposed me to the many of such displays in swimming pools and a sensing called gardar to know whether the other males are gay, they enjoy staring at teenager boys taking their showers.

This is very common actually

Sometimes you noticed certain cubicles are locked for extended periods, be adventurous, peek underneath and you sometimes see more than a pair of legs within. I can assure you that the lifeguards are aware of the hanky panky that goes on in the showers but they will only take action if any member of the public complains.

I believe it is still common to see gay men roaming around in swimming pools showers to satisfy their gaze for younger flesh, despite that many swimming pools are upgraded with individual shower cubicles. Nonetheless, being a father now with a son heightens my concern for my son when he grows up. I advise all parents to tell their sons not to linger in swimming pool showers for extended period of time, better if they could just shower at home.

Why some shower cubicle walls are almost covered all the way to the bottom 
Saunas and Pubs
Gay saunas were common in the mid 2000s. They are not conventional saunas as you might think. These all-male saunas with extra facilities such as condom dispensers lube dispensers and dimly lighted rooms. It was a fertile ground for wild sex with the young and old, regardless of race and religion. Under low light condition, anything goes. Drugs commonly termed "Poppers" were often used in these wild sex parties which help to relax the body for the action that comes after. On paper there were age limits but in reality you will be able to some young faces which I suspect to be only secondary school going age. Some of these saunas had exciting theme nights such as underwear nights or nude nights. I am unable to share much what goes on in these low light rooms because the only thing we do inside is to fuck or get fucked or take anything into the mouth.

On Friday and Saturday nights, Maxwell road market becomes the congregation ground for most of the gay community in Singapore due to the proximity of gay friendly clubs around the area.

Gay Lingo and Fetishes
I have occasionally heard terms related to the gay community which I think are wrongly used. Here is a glossary of terms commonly used in the gay community:

Bears - Bears refers to big sized hairy guys
Bi – bisexual
Btm - It means "Bottom". It refers to the passive partner; or the "female" partner in a relationship. In sexual terms, the person who is on the receiving end.
Chubs - Chubs refers to the fat or obese gay. There are people who have sexual fetish for fat or obese men.
Cruising - To seek other gays in public places. May or may not be for the purpose of sex. Flex - It means can be either Top or Bottom, it means can be the active partner or passive partner. In sexual terms, he can do both ways.
Gaydar - It refers to the ability to sense whether a man is gay.
LTR - it means Long Term Relationship. It means to see stable committed relationships.
Peekhole - It refers to those pinhole-size holes commonly found in cubicle walls in male toilets and shower rooms.
Str8 - It refers to "straight".
Unif - It refers to "uniform". Uniform in this context can refer to School uniform, military uniform or overalls. There are those who are turned on by guys in uniforms.
Stock - Stock refers to guys who are big size, a bit of chubby but not fat.
Top - It refers to the active partner; or the "male" in a relationship. In sexual terms, the person is the one doing who fucks.
"What you into" - Ask the other party whether he has any sexual fetishes
"Intro" - In the IRC context, it seeks out the other party's age, height, weight and race. E.g: 20 170 60 Mly means the person is 20 years old, 170cm, 60 kg, Malay.
"Seek Older / Seek Younger" - As with straight people, they have preferences for older or younger partners. (My personal preference in the past is to seek guys who are same age or younger. I was never into older men. But there are those who seek out elderly gay men).

To sum it up...
I am not trying to put the gays in a bad picture. I am just sharing some of my experiences as a former gay Singaporean who is perplexed by some of the vocal gay minority who screamed foul and discrimination when they have all the rights to enjoy their life peacefully. Be it knowing more gay friends or engage in their sexual fetishes or seeking out long term gay partners, the gays are not singled out by anyone in public or persecuted by the authorities. Are these vocal gays making the silent gay majority look bad? If you are caught in public by the public engaging in blowjob, it is just too bad, why do it in public in the first place?

Some gay friends I know are in committed relationships - I know an older gay couple, who have been together for more than 7 years, although they have their quarrels and tiffs, they enjoy their lives doing community work, taking care of their dogs and the occasion overseas travels. What discrimination have they suffered? They asked. They have 2 HDB flats (with 1 rented out to collect passive income) and they have named their partners as beneficiaries for their CPF and insurance policies.
There are other stuffs going on in the gay community which I shall not go into, such as peek holes, glory-holes, exhibitism, blackmails, voyeurism, paedophilism, cruising, the use of,, sugardaddies etc.
I admit, even when I am out on the streets with my wife and son, sometimes I sensed stares from other (gay) guys and I tend to return them a glance, sometimes with a secret grin; because I was once in their circle which is very small. Will I return to my old ways? Only time will tell.
Good vantage point for a sneak peek at the hot guys?